most of our problems and challenges arise from interpersonal relations – whether be it with your spouse, your boss, your colleagues, friends, neighbours, politicians, and so forth. It is actually an art to keep strong and healthy relationships, and that includes the relationship you have with yourself. That’s one thing we were not taught at school, examples from our primary families vary (most families are disrupted one way or another) so how could we possibly learn how to cope, survive, let alone enjoy the relationships we have. It is just too complicated, to complex and it changes all the time.
The answer is simple. Simplify it. It’s not that difficult to do and it brings instant visible changes. It’s called:
It’s none of your business.
- It’s none of your business what others think of you. It’s theirs and it tells a lot more about them than it does about you.
- It’s none of your business if others hold different beliefs. It’s their right, as it is yours to have your own. It’s ok to differ. Do not try to convince people you are right. It’s none of your business. It actually adds to richness in our society. That’s where music and art came from – diversity.
- If people are angry, negative, sad, possessive, it’s none of your business etiher. You don’t have to be sad too in order to comfort someone. In fact this may result in both of you falling into melancholy and what good does that bring? Same goes for negativity. It’s their feeling, you don’t have to make it your own.
- It’s none of your business when people try to engage you into for example gossip, or try to convince you into something. You can tell them that it does not involve you and you are welcome to withdraw if it doesn’t make you feel good. You don’t need anyone’s permission to say no. In fact, people might show you greater respect, when you turn them down.
You are responsible for your own wellbeing. Not others. It’s none of their business. However when you try to persevere in staying out of other people’s lives and carefully nourish your own energy, this will most likely result in more fulfilling, close relationships.
It’s just amazing how the world instantly changes, once you take a different perspective.