learning begins at the end of your comfort zone. I’m sure you’ve heard this before. The best and most learning happens when you are feeling insecure, unfomfortable, maybe even scared, because things are hard.
Comfort zone isn’t always fun. In fact it is almost never fun. But it’s always worthwhile once you have time to reflect back on it.
My uncomfort zone has happened last week as I was chosen for a job shadowing as associate trainer for the international training for youth workers and leaders. From the pool of trainers two were chosen for this job and we were supposed to learn from two experienced trainers. So together there were four of us in the trainer’s team. I’ve done some (many) trainings before, but never within a team like this one and never to a group that I would stay with for one whole week, 24 hours per day.
I entered the training pretty confident. Little did I know that running training for a day or two is in no way related or similar to delivering training where you develop (together with) a group. This one was not just about passing on the contents and teaching others, but was as much about group dynamics, stages and development through different stages. This was very new for me and sometimes really hard. Though the expert trainers let us take parts and deliver some of the sessions alone or in pairs. And that turned out to be the best way to learn. This was not a rehearsal, there was no backup and the timing was scarce so we had to be quick in making important decisions and had to react promptly.
We managed. Not perfectly, and I’m sure we could do better. But we did the best job we could do. All of us. We tried our best. Our driving force was the group we trained. We wanted to give them everything we could and we really hoped that the group would meet the outcomes that is useful for them when they return to their organizations.
I learned. Again learned to be comfortable with uncomfort. This is a sign that I’m growing.
So one more news. Prior to this training we had our first meeting under the project “That reminds me of a story“. It was really well received and our plan is to run in continuonsly every month or two. If you’d like to join, click here to subscribe to the news about the dates. In the next meeting I’ll have many stories to tell from this amazing week of intense learning, new friendships, group work, team building and increased acceptance of diversity. Thank you so much Sneža and Sašo and Lea and thank you my dear group to be such a challenging environment that demands much, but also gives much in return. I’ll never forget this.
By the way I’m really impressed by the variety of the countries you come from. World really is a small place.
So what are your best hopes from today’s reading? I’m positive you might be curious how my first therapy went. Thanks for asking. Indeed after posting on fb (and here), I got plenty proposals, in fact more than I anticipated. Had a couple of sessions, but not too many as it is tough work for me and takes much concentration in focusing on what works and pursuing constructive listening. It really does, but it is at the same time the most powerful experience and I felt accomplished. Can’t speak about clients, as they should tell their own experience and I’ll tell you about it in a couple of weeks as we see each other in the following sessions. Also, after I have dozens of sessions I’ll give you a more detailed description when there is a stronger empirical base to draw from and little chance of anyone being exposed in any way.
But apart from that there’s more news. A logo was born. A logo of my future business. Just yesterday I got back home from an international conference where I presented part of my doctoral thesis. It was a poster presentation titled Process of Determining Academic Adjustments for Disabled Students in a Solution Focused Way. As I’ve been to several international conferences already and am getting a bit more experienced, I realised I need a card. A business card. It has happened many times that people asked for it and I didn’t have one, because I thought it is not necessary, but in fact it is a pretty useful tool. So I figured it is time I get me one for this conference. Well not just for this conference, but in general a card might be a good idea.
Not a casual (boring) one, of course. I already had some ideas about my future logo. If you paraphrase letters from my name (and change a few) you get a fish and a balloon (riba balon). This came up as my husband and I prior to our wedding joked about my future name and surname and how it will sound like after we are married. I said this is what I will call my business one day. It was a joke at first, but we liked it and it was really original. No one thought it may become real. Well here’s one more proof that thoughts are real, so be careful what you think about because there is a great chance it may become reality one day.
Yes, it was a joke but it also had a deeper meaning. One of my ex-professors, whom I respect very much and who had a huge influence on me and my work when I was still an undergraduate student, said to me one day that my purpose is to take care that good people remain good. I agreed, but she was far more able to find the right words for it. So ribalon’s meaning is simply about a fish representing a client and a balloon lifting him/her up. And that’s what I do – I help people fly.
Now to get this on paper (screen), that’s the fun part. Although I deeply admire all Photoshop experts and graphic designers, my ideal is to keep things simple and unique. So I decided to draw ribalon myself, really draw it. I wanted it to be a genuine picture as imagined in my head. Using Inkscape (had to learn how to use it, and had a blast doing that!) here’s the final result. A dear friend of mine helped me put it into shape and so I got my very first business card and a logo: D and some people from the conference already asked for it. Look forward to hearing from them!